Julia's Juice on Life

I am currently laughing typing this cause anyone that has been around me this year knows that it was definitely one crazy year. If you are reading this, I am thinking you have taken some interest in what I have written but don’t worry it will be good 🙂

Happiness Looks Different for everyone.

Career:

When starting a new job there is a lot of learning and resilience that comes with it. During that time, you learn a lot about yourself. My previous job was the same one, I interned at therefore that was all I knew my professional working experience to be like. Naturally, as a human being it is easy to have some imposter syndrome wondering if you are cut out for the career you are pursuing or if you will be successful in your new role. However, with anything, time is your best friend. It was crazy what I was able to catch onto quickly and apply it effectively. It allowed me to obtain confidence that I never knew I could possess so early on in my career. I am thankful to have great leaders on my team that recognize my ability and give me assignments/projects that challenge my ability. As a young woman in my career and being in a field where the majority of my team is male, I can wonder if I am meant for the position (imposter syndrome). However, with great leadership you realize that you are an important asset (no pun intended) to the team and there are qualities that you offer that others cannot. I have never been so excited than right now knowing what I am capable of for where my career is going. If you see me in Forbes within the next 20 years don’t be surprised. Having friends is also very important to be successful in life.

My girlies:

I have learned that having love and contentment from all around is most important. This year I was really intentional to surround myself with people that truly love who I am as a person. I had no desire to entertain people that did not appreciate my love or light. In a world with social media, it is easy to acquire friends or people due to how others perceive them, however I am confident that all my friendships are so genuine, and I could not ask for anything more. When you surround yourself with amazing people you begin to be very selective with who you let in or be vulnerable with. Each of my friends are so unique to me. I have my 2 besties from high school that have known me through all stages of life. I have the girl that I met freshman year on floor 2 of towers that refers to herself as the Julia whisperer which she is. 2 of my besties are finance queens that will always jam to rap music with me specifically Mr. Right Now. My favorite twins from college that are always such bright lights in my life. Even my girls that I have become closer with during this stage of life. On top of that I have an amazing sister that never ceases to amaze me. I am a genuine believer that real recognizes real. Having such amazing, driven, fun friends in my life is a large part of why this year was so great. I owe so much of their love and kindness to my happiness too. It is good to remind yourself you are in your 20s once. Say yes to the trip to Colorado, say yes to the concert, say yes to the Twins, Vikings, Timberwolves game, say yes to a golf date with the girls, say yes to a coffee/drinks date. Obviously, make sure you are not stressed about life etc. but with anything there will be a time when you wish you were here again so do not hesitate to live it up now. I may have some amazing friends but how I maintain those great friendships is by taking care of myself first.

How I maintain my happiness:

First, I would like to say in 2023 I finally started Therapy!! Now you may be wondering why I decided to start this year?? Well, it was a few things like my anxiety, people pleasing tendencies, feeling stuck etc. earlier this summer I realized that there are parts of me that I need to work on that no one can see on the surface. After encouragement from a few of my close friends who go, I decided too finally do it. It is crazy how therapy helps re-train your mind. From August on it truly has been so great to go and recognize the effects it has had on the validating of my feelings. I realized that as hard as it is to communicate boundaries that another person would not like to hear or realize a friendship may look different post-grad it is also empowering. The more you do it the easier it gets. I highly encourage anyone that is able to go to therapy male or female to go. You don’t need to get to a point of no return to go to therapy. Therapy is good to play offense and discuss everyday things that come up in your life too. It is okay if you are not okay, that is part of being human. As much as I train my mind, I also train my body through various workouts. Besides lifting and boxing, I also love going to hot yoga flow at Lifetime at least once a week. With the constant stress and day to day movement the body does need to rest and recover so that is one of my favorites. Journaling and listening to music are also a few of my favorites. Taking time to do things that you love is important for self-fulfillment. There is nothing I love more than bringing a smile to someone’s face by being authentically me. I love being kind to everyone you never know what someone may be going through a smile and a hi or thank you goes a long way.

Moving into 2024:

It is so funny many times I will have people ask me if I am dating anyone etc. and my answer is no, I enjoy my friends and where I am at in life it would take someone pretty amazing for me to get into a relationship. I am fully capable of being happy and living life on my own. If I have to wait until I am 33 to find my Travis Kelce I will. Yes, I do have friends getting married. Yes, I do have friends in serious relationships. Yes, I do have friends that are single. The beauty in all of that is we are all on our own journey of this beautiful thing called life 🙂 I cannot wait to be apart of 2 of my dear friends weddings this summer. Both of them are marrying great guys and I am so thankful they want me to be in their wedding party for such a special day. We accept the love we think we deserve. Life is too short to just think you are “behind” with ANYTHING. Just like anyone you are figuring life out on your time. That is why I do not get anxious when my friends get engaged or into serious relationships because it’s not my time. I know who I am as a person and how big my heart is. Everyone in my life appreciates my big heart, goofiness, and light I bring into their lives. I truly could not ask for more at this stage in my life. Obviously, this post did not go into every detail of my 2023 it is in part because I wanted to just share a temperature check of my year. Many of you lived it along with me or heard the stories. I wish you all the joy and love in 2024. A friendly reminder to be grateful for all that you have in this beautiful life! Sending love always~ Jules